March 12, 2017

Shaming or contributing?

Shakira is 40 years old. Here’s her latest music video where she’s wearing ripped jean shorts, a midriff-baring top, and, like… leather bondage straps on her legs. And she’s salsa dancing with a 23-year-old dude. Because that’s how Shakira rolls.

ALSO she started a charity to fight poverty and help kids in Columbia get a good education.
ALSO she was given a medal by the United Nations for being a “true ambassador for children and young people, for quality education and social justice.”
ALSO she’s a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.
Shakira = Proof that you can bare your stomach on camera (if you want to), swivel your hips and dance like a mofo (if you want to), wear leather straps on your legs (!!!) and ALSO change the world. You can be unapologetically artistic, creative, erotic, seductive, sexually expressive — AND do important social work, AND be highly respected by your peers and win awards.
Some people might scoff and waggle their fingers, or even call Shakira a “bad feminist.”
WHATEVVVVVER. Bish, please!
Shakira is blazing trails, entertaining millions of people, making her art, and changing kids’ lives.

And meanwhile, what are YOU doing with YOUR life, Ms. Judgy McJudgerston on the Internet? Commenting on people’s YouTube videos? Writing Facebook messages to shame other women because of what they wear, or how they dance, or how they express themselves? Gossiping and snarking and feeling spiritually superior because your stomach isn’t exposed like Shakira’s — like THAT makes all the difference? Find something better to do with your time. Instead of commenting and shaming, CONTRIBUTE.

Challenge: Every time you are tempted to shame another woman this week, give someone a compliment. Did you send a complaint in? Great. Now send three love notes.

XOXO,
Susan

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